PURITY 101 – Keep Showing Up

PURITY 101 – Keep Showing Up

All of these 101 tips come from chapters in my book 21-Day Purity Jumpstart.  It is the foundational book for our ministry.

Some people who go the gym want to get big and strong. They want to bulk up and lift heavier weights. Others want to get lean and burn fat. They want to be thinner and faster. They want to be able to do more with less. You have been given a membership to the sexual purity gym. To succeed for the long haul, you’re going to need to build strength, become efficient and develop endurance.

With strength – You will be able to say no to ungodliness and worldly passions. You will mature in your faith and purity. You will no longer act like a selfish child, but as a self-less, healthy adult instead.

With efficiency – You will be able to take the quicker path to healthy and godly passions. You will be able to do more with what you have. You will be able to maximize your creativity and energy so that you can bring God the most glory.

With endurance – You will be able to maintain sobriety longer. You will be able to withstand more challenges, pain and suffering and come out victorious. You will be able to see that God’s goals for your life are more important than the momentary pleasures that sexual sins bring you. 


I think fifty percent of the purity battle is showing up.

We have a rule in our men’s purity groups that is as follows: “Good, bad or ugly, we show up.” You need to come to meetings regardless of what kind of week you’ve had. You’re not going to get better if you don’t show up consistently every week.

What do you need to show up to?

  • Support group meetings
  • Accountability meetings
  • Meetings with your counselor, coach or wise person
  • Church, Bible study or small group meetings
  • Personal time with God
  • Conversations with your spouse
  • Hangout times with friends

You need to show up to the relational appointments that are going to propel your purity journey. You might look at this list and not have any of these appointments to show up to. That’s okay. We will talk about all of them in this Jumpstart program. For now, the principle I want you to commit to is showing up. I want you to commit to showing up regardless of what struggles may come your way.

It’s easy to show up when you’re doing well. If you have had a week where your lines were not crossed and there were no major slip-ups, then showing up to an purity-meeting is not hard. It’s much harder to show up when you’ve had a lot of struggles and are feeling ashamed.

There are a lot of times when you are not going to feel like showing up. There will be times when you have a bad day. Those are the days where you will receive the greatest benefit from showing up. If you can learn to show up when it’s not easy, God will continue to strengthen you on your journey and honor your efforts. 

Action Step: Make a commitment to yourself and to God that you will show up whether things are good, bad, or ugly.