PURITY 101 – Set Up Internet Filters

PURITY 101 – Set Up Internet Filters

 

All of these 101 tips come from chapters in my book 21-Day Purity Jumpstart.  It is the foundational book for our ministry.

You’re not going to get far on your sexual purity journey until you have a strong Internet strategy. You have to deal with your Internet interactions aggressively.

 

CONTENT FILTERS – This is the security software that prevents bad things from coming in. On practically all computers, you can go to the Internet Settings and adjust the level of security protection. However, you really need an extra level of security. There are many basic content filters available. Some people like programs such as, McAfee, Norton, AVG or Kaspersky. CNET.com is a good place to look at a list of options, some of which are free!

 

Action Step: Make sure your content filtering is up-to-date and you know how to use it.

 

ACCOUNTABILITY FILTERS – I am a big fan of accountability software. This is software that tracks all of the sites that you browse on the computer and reports them to one or more accountability partners. Accountability software is a wonderful innovation that has helped many men and women find an openness and freedom in using their devices.

 

Action Step: Try out one accountability filtering option.

 

Here are three great ones, and a commercial for my favorite:

 

Covenant Eyes – www.covenanteyes.com

X3Pure – www.x3pure.com

K9 Web Protection – http://www1.k9webprotection.com/

 

I am really fond of Covenant Eyes. Our family uses their filtering and accountability software for all of our devices. They have been a good ministry partner with us. If you use our code, PURITY, at checkout, you can get your first month for free!

 

 

PURITY 101 – Clean House

PURITY 101 – Clean House

 

All of these 101 tips come from chapters in my book 21-Day Purity Jumpstart.  It is the foundational book for our ministry.

Read this verse a few times and let its truths soak in.

“…let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith.” Hebrews 12:1-2

 

CHECK THE NOUNS

A great purity tip to learn is: Check the nouns. You know what a noun is. It’s a “person, place or thing.” There are people, places, and things that influence you the wrong way. You need to eliminate or minimize your contact with them.

 

Checking the nouns is a form of defense. You need to get rid of the bad people, places and things.

 

Checking the nouns will also be an offensive purity tactic. Day 6 will guide you through building your offense. You need to invest in good people, places and things.

 

Get rid of the bad, and replace it with the good. People in addiction recovery circles might say, “You need to replace bad habits and behaviors with good habits and behaviors.” This is very much a biblical principle.

 

“Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.” Colossians 3:2

 

“ Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body.” Ephesians 4:25

 

 

Action Step: Take inventory of the people, places, things and media that are tripping you up. Let the cleanup begin!

 

PEOPLE

 People you have been sexual with

 Old girlfriends/old boyfriends

 Current girlfriend/current boyfriend

 Flirty people

 Chat rooms

 Email addresses

 Social media contacts

 Secret email accounts/Secret PO Box

 Secret bank account

 Other ________________________

 

PLACES

 Movie theater

 Porn shops

 Strip clubs

 Beach/Swimming Pools

 Casinos

 Concerts

 Restaurants/Bars/Hangouts

 Other ________________________

 

THINGS

 Magazines

 Catalogues

 Newspapers

 Mail outs/Flyers

 Clothing around the house

 Sex toys

 Alcohol

 Other ________________________

MEDIA

 Phone

 Tablet

 Work Computer

 Home Computer

 Radio/Satellite Radio

 TV/Cable/Satellite/DVR

 DVDS/Blu Rays/Rentals

 Netflix/ Hulu/Amazon Prime

 Flash Drives

 Apps on your phone

 Podcasts

 Music

 Other ________________________

 


 

PURITY 101 – Build a Good Defense

PURITY 101 – Build a Good Defense

All of these 101 tips come from chapters in my book 21-Day Purity Jumpstart.  It is the foundational book for our ministry.

The quickest way to get results in your sexual purity journey is to build a good defense.

A good Defense creates a barrier between you and the people, places and things that challenge your purity.

To understand defense: eliminate, block, and slow down.

Eliminate Access – A complete cutting off of your access to the source.

Examples: Cut your internet, change from a smart phone to a dumb phone, cut cable, break off a relationship, delete your social media account

Block Access – Obstacles that prevent you and the source from getting together. Roadblocks.

Examples: Internet filters, password protect your computer, carry no cash, block television channels, “unfollow” a person or groups on social media

Slow Down Access – Obstacles that slow you down from getting connected with the source. Some call them hurdles. My accountability partner, Tom, calls these “speed bumps”.

Examples: Shut down your laptop at night, leave your tablet in another room, take a different route home, change seats at a restaurant

Your sexual purity defense should do the same things:

  1. Prevent the source of struggle from getting to you
  2. Give you breathing room to work your offense (talked about in Day 6)

You want to get points on the scoreboard when it comes to your sexual purity journey. You want to advance, you want to grow and you want to win. You will win by having a good offense, but first, you have to strengthen your defense.

Action Steps – Work on your defense today. Write down what you need to do to build up a good blockade.

Q: What sources trip you up the most?

Q: What steps do you need to take to:

Eliminate Access –

Block Access –

Slow Down Access –

 

Top Verses For Sexual Purity – Ephesians 5:3 “Not Even a Hint”

One of our best audio resources is called Top Verses For Sexual Purity.  These are audio podcast episodes on bible verses that help you focus on sexual purity or some aspect of recovery.  This resource will help you rebuild your spiritual life, find God again in your journey, or make you even stronger for the battle.

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Purity 101 – The Most Important Step

PURITY 101 – THE MOST IMPORTANT STEP

You’re desire to be sexual purity is great!  It comes from the heart of God.  It shows your desire to live your life to a different standard than the world lives.

But purity is hard isn’t it?

Our Purity 101 series is a review of the basics.  Some of these tips and principles will be new.  Others will be ones you’ve heard over and over again.  It’s always valuable to review the basics to make sure you are still doing them.  But I would add, it’s important that you learn to MASTER the basics so they become a regular, seasoned part of your life.

All of these 101 tips come from chapters in my book 21-Day Purity Jumpstart.  It is the foundational book for our ministry.

COME OUT OF ISOLATION

This is the most important 101 step for a sexual struggler.  You need to be talking to others about your struggles.  Why?

  1. Sexual sin is much stronger than you.
  2. God’s Word calls you to community with others
  3. You are hard-wired for relationships by God’s design
  4. Sexual purity is a discipleship process

Don’t think for a second that you can do your sexual purity alone!  Your inward nature fights you.  Your mind fights you.  The culture fights you.  And the Devil, the chief enemy of God fights you.

ACTION STEPS / QUESTIONS

  1. Find someone safe to share your struggles with today.  Do it.  Come out of isolation.
  2. Who do you have in your life right now that you consider a safe person?
  3. Who do you need to set up an appointment with (counselor, minister, small group leader…)?

Our ministry is here for you.  jeff@puritycoaching.com might be the starting block you need.